Thursday, 20 April 2017

Why Is Sex Important In A Relationship?

Why is sex important in a relationship?

First of all, I’d like to point out a few issues as to why sex can be a problem in some relationships. Some partners may have health concerns that limit their sexual activity. Some couples experience sexual differences. One person may have a higher or lower sex drive than the other. Those are subjects I could write about individually and I may cover some aspects of each as I go along, but for now, I am concentrating on why sex is important in a monogamous relationship.  


It ‘s untrue to think of men as sexual beasts. Not all men have high sex drives and It’s unfair to label men as such. Women can be just as sexual when it comes down to it. Women can have very high sex drives too and sometimes, that is forgotten. What happens to a woman when her sexual needs are not met by her partner? She feels unloved and unwanted. Sex isn’t just sex for women, for some, it’s a way to express themselves emotionally, a connection. Women love to feel sexy and wanted.  If a woman is in a relationship with a man who has a lower sex drive than she, problems arise. She thinks all sorts of thoughts. Am I not attractive anymore? Is he having an affair? Does he want something else? Something better? Communication is key here. If you’re not sexually compatible with your spouse, you can either compromise or find someone you are compatible with. Sexual compatibility is important in a relationship. If you don’t have that, it’s going to be frustrating for you both.

Of course there are other ways to satisfy your sexual needs, if your partner isn’t up for it. There are toys, right? I personally never enjoyed something that needs batteries and that’s where the connection part comes into play. I can’t connect with a toy. I want the real thing. Sex is healthy. It’s nothing to feel ashamed about. If your partner doesn’t have the same sex drive as you, you do not need to feel abnormal and it certainly doesn’t mean you’re a nymphomaniac! It just means you’re not sexually compatible with your partner. It becomes frustrating when other aspects of your relationship are good and compatible, but there is a huge gap between you both when sex is an issue, when one party isn’t being fulfilled. 

What about the person with the lower sex drive? It’s frustrating for them too. They feel useless. They feel like they can’t satisfy their partner. One word, Compromise. Just because your sex drive isn’t as high as you’d like, doesn’t mean you can’t satisfy her/him. Foreplay is a good way to satisfy your partner if you don’t feel up to going the distance. It’s fun, exciting and emotionally rewarding for both. She/he feels wanted, sexy and attractive and you feel happy you could help. Plus, it’s sometimes a huge turn on watching your partner experience sexual pleasure, so you might just want to ‘finish’.

The bottom line is compatibility. I can’t stress it enough. If you’re not sexually compatible with your spouse, you’re not going to be 100% happy in the relationship and It can also lead to depression. The freedom you feel when both parties are sexual compatible is quite amazing and the possibilities are endless. If that’s not there, you feel caged.

Sex is important in a relationship to feel secure, loved and wanted. It's important to feel fulfilled! Sex is fun and enjoyable. It’s a connection and an emotional freedom. It’s natural!

Enjoy it.

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